Is it ethical for a private seller to create a bidding war between buyers

The seller can do whatever they want. You don't have to play the game if you don't want to. When I sell something, it's whoever comes up with the cash first. Back in the day I used to offer items to the first person, but then had other potential customers waiting, only to see the first guy get cold feet.

I agree! Walk away and find a better deal. First come first served is my policy too! Hope that helps! Jim

Thanks for sharing your wisdom. I have taken your advice and moved on. I feel it was the private sellers inexperience that lead to this confusion behavior. When someone is waving a checkbook at you saying they want to buy your vehicle its common sense, at that point, to close the sale. Not to wait for possibly a better offer. They ole saying of a 'bird in the hand'.

You're welcome. Glad to help! Thanks for letting us know you made a smart decision! Jim