oil filter

Depending on the problem, they do make a removal cap that fits over the end of the oil filter, you can use a ratchet and an extension, if need be? I haven't looked at your oil filter.

one of the major problems is that if I can get it in there and get ahold of the filter there is no room to move it to get it off. there is such a small space to work with and when you have large hands it makes things even more difficult

and now the filter is starting to get crushed even trying to use different oil filter wrenches

These filters are thin as paper and torqued on way too tight. Maybe trying to applying a band type wrench near the base will not crush as much. You might have to drive it somewhere for help so I hope it doesn't puncture.